• Phynix Rising

  July – Healing Unresolved Grief: Week 2

  Posted by Gemma-Lee on July 13, 2026 at 9:10 am

  A question for your week… 🔥

  Here’s something that often surprises people when they look at it honestly: grief doesn’t move when we push against it. It moves when we stop resisting it.

  Most of us have some version of a rule about how long grief is supposed to last — and a fairly strong internal alarm that activates when we feel we’ve exceeded the permitted time. I should be over this by now. It was a long time ago. Other people have been through worse.

  These aren’t measured assessments. They’re defences. Ways of managing the discomfort of still carrying something we haven’t fully processed — by deciding we shouldn’t be carrying it rather than by actually setting it down.

  Grief tends to be patient. It tends to wait. And it tends to resurface — sometimes years later, in unexpected circumstances, triggered by something that seems unrelated — precisely because it never got to complete its natural movement the first time.

  For people doing genuine inner work, this is often one of the most significant discoveries: that some of what’s affecting us now isn’t new. It’s old, unfinished grief in a new costume.

  This week’s prompt:

  Have you ever experienced grief resurfacing long after an event — showing up when you didn’t expect it, or in a situation that seemed unrelated? What does that tell you about what it might still need?

  Share what feels comfortable. This one often opens something unexpected. 💛

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